The Guest’s Guide to Looking Great

A Wedding Photographer’s Guide to Wedding Attire

Let’s be real: I’ve spent thousands of hours staring at wedding guests through a viewfinder. I’ve seen the gorgeous, the trendy, and the "oh no, their zipper just gave up during Shout."

While most fashion blogs tell you what’s "in" this season, I’m here to tell you what actually looks good in the background of the couple’s most important memories. If you want to be the guest that the photographer (and the couple) loves, here is my expert guide to wedding attire.

1. The Photographer’s Golden Rule: Fade Into the Frame

You might love that neon fuchsia or that busy geometric print, but here’s a blunt truth: You are the background. When the couple looks at their "First Dance" photos, they want their eyes to go to each other, not to the bright orange polka dots in the third row.

The Strategy: Stick to solid colors and minimal patterns.

The Goal: Be a beautiful, muted part of the scenery. Think of yourself as part of a painting—you want to complement the masterpiece, not be the thumbprint on the lens.

2. The "Dance Floor" Stress Test

I’ve seen it too many times: a guest looks like a million bucks during the ceremony, but by 9:00 PM, they’re heading to the car because their dress is too tight to breathe, or they’ve changed into a baggy t-shirt and jeans.

Nothing ruins a reception photo faster than a guest in street clothes.

Before you commit to an outfit, perform the Photographer’s Litmus Test:

The Reach: Can you raise your hands over your head without a wardrobe malfunction?

The Pogo: Give a little jump. Does everything stay where it’s supposed to?

The Groove: If you can’t bust a move in it, don't wear it.

3. Don’t Be the "Outlier"

Every wedding has a "vibe." If it’s a barn wedding and you show up in a tuxedo, or it’s a black-tie ballroom and you’re in khakis, you’re going to stick out like a sore thumb in the gallery.

Matching the event isn't just about etiquette; it’s about visual harmony. When everyone is on the same page, the photos feel cohesive and intentional. Check the invite, check the venue, and when in doubt, aim for the middle of the pack.

4. Style Beyond the Binary

For my non-binary friends or anyone looking to move away from traditional gowns or stiff suits: the "Relaxed-Chic" look is your best friend. A sharp pair of slacks and a button-down with an open collar is a timeless, winning silhouette. It’s a blank canvas!

Level it up: Add a statement necklace, a bold tie, or unique jewelry.

The Pro Move: An open blazer adds structure to your frame (which looks great in photos) without the restrictive feel of a buttoned-up suit.

The Bottom Line

Wear something that makes you feel confident, but remember that a wedding is a marathon, not a sprint. If you can’t move, you won't have fun. And if you aren't having fun, it shows on your face—and my memory card.

Keep it simple, keep it comfortable, and let the couple shine.